Marriage at a young age is not a new thing for Pakistani society. However, there are many pros and cons of marriage at a young age. One can also see many examples in which girls are married at the age of 16,17 or 18 years.
Reasons and Thinking behind Marriage at a young age:
There are various reasons and thinkings behind “Marriage at a Young age”:
- The girls are not getting an education so what’s the use of making them stay at a parent’s house, it’s better to get them married as soon as possible. Sometimes people do not prefer a daughter’s education and they think it is better to get them married as soon as possible.
- There are her younger sisters too, if she will get married soon then it will be the turn of the younger ones.(It’s because of the many children of Pakistani couples). In order to fulfil their obligation, they try to find the bridegroom as soon as possible.
Where there are many other factors too but these two above mentioned are the most important ones.
However, the recent examples are refreshing and I am totally in favor of that.
Where our youth is turning towards toxic relationships at an early age. Many times it seems that the only motive of getting admissions especially in the universities is to date.
Apart from the fact that this is prohibited in our religion, there are socially and emotionally harms too. It is a well-known fact that girls are emotionally attached to someone quickly than boys. Right after getting admissions in the universities, especially when they are far away from their houses, they become an easy target.
The problem is not in liking someone, this is what makes us humans.
- The problem is when a guy approaches a girl with the attention of just having sex with her. In western countries these kinds of things are common. However here in Pakistan, it is morally and religiously wrong too.
- The problem is when a girl or a boy approach towards someone with the intention of grabbing some money or doing time pass.
- The problem occurs when one person is serious about the relationship and the other person is just playing and enjoying the situation. It can lead to mental trauma, emotional breakage and even lead to suicide.
It is a good thing to marry if both people are interested in each other. It will be strange to western people, as they can date for years and years as it is also allowed in their religion or society.
However, in our Islamic and Pakistani society, this is not acceptable. So, this young couple did something that we must appreciate. If you love someone truly and you think you should and can spend your life with them, why to put them in a hanging position, why not to take initiative.
I am talking about it regarding Nimra and Asad, the young couple who got married at the age of 18. Some people are criticizing them and some are appreciating them. A couple like Nimra and Asad or Zaid Ali and his wife Yumna Zaid set an example of marriage at a young age.
Moreover, the famous Youtuber Zaid Ali also advised people to marry young. However, he had the privilege of earning at a young age and was established enough that now he bought a house too. Where the common man of Pakistan cannot afford the expense of even his marriage.
I think both couples did the best thing and I must appreciate their effort who thought of getting married instead of dating for years and then leaving the girl. They can continue their study together, they can go on date and enjoy their young years together.
However, there are somethings that should consider regarding Marriage at a young age:
- This couple or people like them are from rich families. The girl’s parents have not to worry about the guy’s income, that how he will feed the girl. The boy’s parents have not to worry about how they will fulfil the expenses of both.
- In this situation, it is clear that they let their son married not because they need someone to take care of their house as it is assumed after marriage a girl has to take every responsibility of the in-laws.
It is also very difficult for people of the middle class or lower middle class to let their children married at a young age. The reason is, they fulfil the needs of their own children with much difficulty, how can they bring one more person to their house and take her responsibility.
It’s obvious if a boy is not earning and his father is also not rich how can they fulfil the needs of the new person. So it seems stupid to bring one more person and make her life difficult too.
Marriage at Young age is an act of Bravery but you have to take this step after consideration:
In my opinion, marriage becomes an act of bravery when you love someone and want to marry them. It is not easy in Pakistan especially if you belong to a traditional family, people talk too much rubbish even if you are doing Nikah (getting married).
I really appreciate this act of bravery even if you are marrying a girl younger than your age, or if you are getting married to an older one, or if you are getting married at an older or younger age. The people who just sit and criticize do not have that much courage to do it.
The Most Important thing to consider before marry someone:
Marry only if you feel you can give rights to each other and if you feel you can take responsibility and emotionally support each other at every step of life. It should never happen that you start taking the most important step of your life by only seeing someone’s beauty. It should be done with proper thinking.
